Malhar - Torrent of emotion

It is important to process every emotion that comes to us in its fullest. When they are not processed, it can make you feel stuck in the trauma of it leaving no room for self-improvement. When it comes to grief, not everyone knows how to process it. Whether grieving from a loss of business, broken marriage or losing a loved one to death, the path to curing ourselves is often not clear. It becomes unbelievable or shocking that it has happened, and the situation feels unacceptable. The most important big leap in overcoming the shock is to start accepting the truth. If you have to cry out loud, do that. If you need a long walk, do that. Process everything that comes to your mind, from the time you heard about it to the moment you let it go.  The path through acceptance leads to what I call 'soulful'. This phase is often filled with questions of why this happened, why the fate chose you and what more you could have done differently that may have made a difference. Realizing that th...

Reflections Two years ago my mother was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma, a form of blood cancer. From the experiences of my mom I learnt that all she wants during the treatment phase is kind gestures from her friends and family. She is never praying for a longer life but wished that her and her extended family would check on her almost every day over the phone which would give her a feeling of being wanted by everyone and realizing that people cared for her existence.    After becoming aware of her illness, my father was just surviving with the least amount of life in him as she was his motivation, inspiration, well wisher and his strength. It was like the roots of a tree being churned out of the soil, the tree will not have the strength to support itself without the roots. My father had a good job and a reputation with good earnings. He is the Special Government Pleader for the High Court of Kerala. I too supported the expenses and emotions of both of them as much as I could...

Through my blog Malhar, I intend to shed light into the lives of living angels around the world who are seeking for a voice of comfort, motivation, and to reinforce the value of existence. Stability of our inner self is an important element that can make us think and behave in a sensible manner.  I believe that every living being is created  by an unknown divine strength  with a purpose in mind, weather that person become the reason or a mediator for fulfilling the purpose. Therefore, it is important to make our self  feel that we are important to someone at some point in life, whether knowingly or unknowingly.  We all have had bad days or incidents that has the ability to carry us around for a while.  Unpleasant experiences are strong enough to bring out more bad days into lives if we recreate the situation in our mind and live in it. Such state of mind requires immediate tuning to pull our self out of it. Always remember, no day is the repl...

When I was a child Happiness was in every moment I cared less to seek for it When I was a teenager Happiness was in everything I chose to be a part of I started to care to pick the right things Now I am an adult Happiness seems so distant to me Often falling out of the track Trying to get back on it, kept falling Every small laughter brings tears in my eyes I wonder why there is tears in my eyes And my inner voice tells me, “I just felt the real you for a moment” As I look through old photos I realize that I existed a while ago I wonder where I went off in between My inner voice kept saying, “you are worth a thousand more memories to be born” I struggle to keep creating more of those to fall back and laugh upon Knowing that only memories lived and only that survived

Dear reader, I reached my nest after three long years filled with challenges, tears, anxieties, and momentary joys. Now I feel that I am living in the most peaceful part of the world. When I first reached my house, I felt that it has forgotten my existence. Eventually, I started to get all the old smells that I had forgotten, such as the smell of some old medicines my mother used to take, vicks my parents rub on their forehead and nose before bed every day, dusty pages of my old text books, smell of my mother’s home cooked dinner, smoothness of my childhood pillow and even the body odour of my father and mother. Each of us feels that our home is a paradise built not with mere bricks and cement but with unforgettable memories. It is not only the place where we have had millions of dreams but also a place where several of these dreams were realized. Every corner of our house has its own tiny story; every material in the house has a story of laughter or tear, and is has remembrance...

Every failure, I believe, is the closest failure to success. All what we need is a strong desire to win. No matter the goals are too small, stretch it as long as we are able to visualize success as attainable. One method to relieve the tension is by attacking the toughest goal first. A goal, stretched with strong desire to achieve it and enough understanding of how things work will help in succeeding. By-products of failure can be external and internal. Internal consequences are the most severe emotional disorders which is expressed as anger, lack of self confidence and disrespect. Here are few ways that helps me overcome these emotional barriers : Never say "I have so many things to do" - This is the very essence of confidence. When you have to many things in hand try to prioritizing each of the job based on time and resource availability. This will enhance the effectiveness of the work done and ends in perfection. Never let any one over rule your emotions - A leader has a...